My most memorable first kiss happened on my 18th birthday.
Bob Breton, a boy I’d had a secret crush on for a while, had snuck me into a bar where we convinced the staff it was my 19th birthday (legal drinking age where I live).
A pitcher of beer, three shots on the house and a raucous restaurant-wide sing-a-long of happy birthday later, I had a nasty case of hiccups that simply wouldn’t go away. I tried holding my breath, drinking water upside down, even getting kicked out of the bar when they realized I was, in fact, underage. Nothing worked…
Until Bob turned to me and said, “I know how to get rid of those.”
“H-hic-how?” I asked.
“Like this.” And with that he planted such a deep and passionate kiss on my lips, I’m pretty sure the sidewalk still has the footprint from where it melted beneath my Converse sneakers.
Since then, I’ve had some pretty great first kisses and some pretty horrible ones.
The worst however are those kisses that never happen.
You know how it goes: you have a lovely evening with someone, you think they are attractive, they think you are attractive, you mention something like let’s do it again. Yet, when it comes to parting ways both of you are so paralyzed by thoughts of how the end of the evening is going to go, it doesn’t go anywhere at all. Or worse, one of you goes for the hug, the other goes for kiss and you end up with an awkward face plant on the ear.
Sometimes first kisses come naturally. Sometimes, not so much.
Although Bob’s hiccup line was brilliant and perfectly timed, its application is obviously limited.
So what approaches do work?
You could try something cheesy like:
You: You have something on your lips?
You (leaning in for the kiss): Me.
Or you could always go for the “hug and hold”- as in take the person in your arms and hold them for just a bit longer and just a bit closer than a friend might, then bring your face to theirs and see if the movement is reciprocated.
This, of course, puts you at risk of the uncomfortable “hug and squirm” or the awful face turn/wet willie in the ear I mentioned earlier.
Or, you could try the classiest, most elegant technique I’ve experience yet.
This approach lead to my second best first kiss ever. We were snuggled into a booth in the back of a bar. I said something that made him laugh. He smiled, looked me straight in the eyes and simply said: “I’d really like to kiss you.”
The beauty in this is it’s honest, shows confidence and leaves no room for error. If I didn’t want that kiss I could have pretended I didn’t hear him, excused myself to go to the bathroom or politely, if awkwardly, declined.
In this case, my date’s words were music to my ears.
“I’d like that,” I responded at which point he leaned in, took my chin in his hands and tilted my head towards his for the moment that would also lead to one of my most memorable relationships ever.
And, although that relationship eventually ended, the line lives on.
I’ve since used it with several guys I’ve wanted to get physical with and no one has ever complained that I made the first move.
Yes, it’s a risk, but if you don’t try, you don’t know. As Billie Holiday so eloquently put it, “A kiss that is not tasted, is forever and ever wasted.” Now go out there and get yours.
What were some of your most memorable kisses? Share your comments below.