Dating and relationship advice from someone who’s been there
For as long as I can remember, I have been absolutely boy crazy. When I came out of my mother’s womb and the doctor slapped my ass, I’m pretty sure my first thoughts were, “Oh! You’re a doctor? Hot!”
The average North American has between eight and 11 intimate partners in his or her life. To date, I’ve had two husbands (not at the same time, unfortunately), 32 boyfriends (much to my parents’ chagrin) and have dated over 150 people.
Oh, and I also worked as an exotic dancer for six years where I was paid to be a fantasy for thousands more (yep, mom and dad loved that one too.)
Despite earning a Bachelor of Arts degree, a Bachelor of Journalism degree and a Diploma in Business Administration, for most of my 20s and 30s, I was clueless about dating and relationships.
I assumed things about the opposite sex that weren’t true. I undervalued myself. And twice, I rushed into marriages – partially because I was afraid to be alone – without really considering if they were the right person for me in the long-term.
When I was married or in monogamous relationships, I dreamed about being single. When I was single, I was clueless.
After my second divorce at the age of 43, however, I was done. I’d spent my last marriage watching single people rock killer love lives on Sex in the City. I wanted my Carrie Bradshaw moment!
So, I read every book I could find on attraction. I followed the experts, attended workshops and completed programs. I even studied the pick-up artist community to see what they knew that I didn’t.
Along the way, I tried out the techniques I was learning on over 100 dates in one year.
In some cases, I fell flat on my face, but in others, I soared. And, as my confidence with dating skyrocketed, I started attracting a higher caliber of person to me. Finally, I was being pursued by multiple, incredible people and having a blast.
When I expressed my enthusiasm about dating to other singles, however, many were bewildered.
To them, dating was something on par with gauging their eyes out with a broken beer bottle. Furthermore, rather than experiencing an abundance of quality singles that I was, they couldn’t find decent people anywhere.
Clearly, I knew something they didn’t.
As an internal communications specialist in the Ontario government, I’d helped thousands of employees relate more effectively with each other and create meaningful connections at work.
“If I could help government workers experience more joy, passion and authenticity in their lives,” I thought, “surely, I could do the same for disgruntled singles.”
So, I started blogging, giving workshops on dating, became a certified life coach, and even wrote a book for women who want to understand men, date with confidence and put themselves first called Love Lessons from a Lap Dancer.
And, in early 2018, I launched Dating’s Changed to help other people coming out of long-term relationships learn how to date with confidence, clarity and ease.
Today, I am far more selective about my partners (as you should be too)
Even though I’m no longer as boy crazy, I am still absolutely crazy about love.
- I’m crazy about helping people fall in love with life.
- I’m crazy about helping people fall in love with themselves.
- And, I’m crazy about helping people find and fall in love with the right person for them.
And this is what I want for you.
Because, if life has taught me anything, it’s that being loving, being in love, and being loved by a good person – those are some of the best things in the world.
And, let’s face it, the world could really use more love.
If you think you might be ready to let more love into your life, I’d love to see if I can help you. Contact me with a line or two about what is going on in your life to set up a free half hour consultation.
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